Fearless is a word that gets flung around far more often than I would have imagined when I began writing this post. Merriam-Webster defines fearless as being without fear or being brave. The truth is, we are all afraid sometimes, so perhaps a more realistic definition of the term would be to carry on despite the presence of those emotions.
Fear in itself is not a bad thing; experiencing fear is just one of the mixed blessings of being human. And fear can be useful; it can stop us from rushing headfirst into dangerous situations. It’s what we choose to do with our fears that truly define us. Do you allow fear to take control of your actions, or do you strive to overcome that fear and take action in spite of it?
When you find a cause worthy of your attention, be it your own situation or something that affects others, do not let your fears prevent you from speaking out, standing up, or otherwise showing your support. You, as an individual, are a person of value, and your opinion is worth being noticed.
Stand up for yourself.
It can be hard to take a stand when you are faced with harassment, peer pressure, or verbal or physical abuse. It may feel easier to just accept the unwanted words or actions, and hope you will fade into the background. Perhaps if you don’t draw attention to yourself, it will just go away.
Deep inside a part of you knows that’s not likely to happen. In dealing with harassment or peer pressure, the only solution to truly free yourself is to take a stand. By confronting your tormentors, you may earn their respect or at least convince them to back down. In dealing with abuse, verbal or especially physical, the best solution may be to simply remove yourself completely from the situation. You do not deserve what you are experiencing, no matter how much the abuser tries to convince you otherwise.
Stand for a cause.
When you find an issue that you are passionate about, it can be difficult to openly talk about it to others, especially if you believe they will not support you or will not share your concerns. Those feelings should not discourage you from speaking out. Any cause that is worthy of your attention is likely to draw in others too. Perhaps they are just as nervous about speaking out, but will happily join you if you fearlessly take the first stand.
There are numerous issues society faces today that need strong supporters. One person alone is unlikely to achieve much, but by individuals taking a stand, and joining with others, a group can be formed that attracts attention. Change most often comes when enough people come together to present a united front that cannot fail to be noticed by those in power.
One such movement in the media right now is the #Me Too, which is designed to fight back against sexual assault and harassment of women in the workplace. As much as many of us fear becoming victims ourselves, it is only by standing together that we can hope to affect change.
We are only human and we all experience fear. To live a fearless life we have to look beyond those sometimes crippling emotions and live our lives as the people we truly want to become. Don’t let fear stop you from taking a leap, or a stand, or finding your voice.
Till next time,